In recent days, I have had the chance to speak to some of my friends who have German spouses about their experiences and I’m sharing them here.
A good friend of mine who comes from a non-EU country was working as an Au pair in Germany when he met the girl who would be his future wife. Due to visa restrictions, he had to go back to his country and apply for a Marriage Visa. This resulted in a helluva lot of paperwork both for him and his wife but eventually he made it here and they got married. However, in order for them to get married, one spouse had to have enough money and an apartment a certain size for a couple. His wife was luckily able to prove both things and it ended positively for them both. I hope they ask nothing of the sort from me because I haven’t finished studying yet and neither has my girlfriend and it could be problematic for us to show sufficient funds.
A second person I spoke to was a student when he met his German wife. They got married within 3 months of starting the process. However, because it was taking too long for them to get the green light in Germany, they both got hitched in Denmark instead. By the way, Denmark is really popular as a ‘get hitched quick’ destination for Germans and the Dutch.
I really hope my experience is quick and easy and painless. As I said before, I want things to be romantic, not stressful. However, I have found the German system to be a biased with a lot of bias directed toward non-EU spouses. I know there have been marriages of convenience but they should at least get it into their heads that two people can actually fall in love and decide to spend their lives together for that very reason.